I’m updating this post to thank every single one of you for your support, thoughts, prayers, calls, visits…however you supported us. Thank you. I cannot say it enough.
Those who do not know, we lost Alex earlier this year. His body simply got to a point that it was done.
A couple weeks before his passing, he wrote me 2 notes.
The first he told me my life was about to change in a big way.
The second he told me he was dying.
I told him he’s simply going Home, where he’d be whole again and free of pain.
And yes, my life has changed in more ways than I can count.
Alex’s motto was Live Your Dash. If you’ve never read this poem, I encourage you to read it now. I also encourage everyone…Live your life. Laugh every day. And Love with ALL your heart.
Have you ever had an idea for how you wanted to perform a task, only to be forced to change it at the last minute?
That’s me today.
I had an awesome (if I do say so myself) topic for next week’s blog.
Then my world took a turn no one expects.
A turn we all pray never happens.
What happened?
Some of you may know we’ve been dealing with my husband not feeling well for the past several months.
After a couple of misdiagnoses, it turns out he has a cancerous tumor in his throat, very close to his vocal cords.
It’s not operable. Which means chemotherapy.
Within two weeks of diagnosis, he’s already doctor’d out. And he hasn’t even started treatment yet.
Support
We are extremely fortunate that we have a massive support system surrounding us.
And an amazing team of doctors guiding us through the entire process.
Those of you who know me know that I try to always find the positive in things. Do I get cranky? Of course. I’m human.
So where’s the positive in this situation?
For us, it’s done two major things.
First, we are stronger as a couple and as a team.
And that’s saying something. Because before this diagnosis, had you tried to drive a wedge between us with a sledgehammer, you would NOT have succeeded.
Now?
Fahget about it, as my Boston friends would say.
Today, while I was sitting with him in recovery after his chemo port was put in, he apologized for messing up my day.
I told him he didn’t mess anything up. I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be today.
Did I have client work to do?
Yup.
But my clients are part of my support system and they’ve all been amazing about reschedules and some delays.
For which I am eternally grateful.
So, the second thing this has done for us is that it has given us a new perspective.
A new perspective on what’s important.
A new perspective on relationships.
A new perspective on family.
We’re both fortunate to be entrepreneurs. No clock to punch. No taking sick leave or PTO or whatever it’s called these days.
And we’re already talking about “after”.
Because of the location of the tumor, eating is a challenge for him.
So first, “after” for him personally is going to be a big, juicy cheeseburger.
Loaded.
Because eating is something we all take for granted. Until we can’t.
Beyond that, there are things we’ve wanted to do, but haven’t because of commitments.
Like what?
Things like travel.
Like activities. Fun things we’ve wanted to do, but haven’t.
There’s too much life to live out there.
Too many things we haven’t done.
Too many people we haven’t met.
So “after”, is looking like one big adventure.
And again, being entrepreneurs means we can work from anywhere.
And that’s the plan.
So what’s my message today?
Live.
Laugh.
Love.
Don’t put it off. Because you never know when you won’t be able to eat that cheeseburger.
Stay safe and healthy, my friends!
